Having trouble following a plan or sticking to a goal? Then this is for you.

By Master isolated images, published on 09 May 2014

How to follow through on your plans:

1.      Make it uncomfortable not to.  If you end up watching TV, surfing the net, or meandering when you have something to do… don’t.  Check in and find out what you do when you’re not following your plans, or fulfilling your goals, and say no to it.  Make a deal with yourself that you can do the thing, you want to do, to distract yourself, after you've met your goal for the day.  I am a master at distractions, now I just need to become the master of them.

2.      Review (briefly) why you have the plan or want to meet the goal.  What’s the end game?  If the out come is your own business, losing weight, being healthier what does that look like?  What are the key benefits of success?  Put up a picture or word related to said success and refer back to it.

3.      Keep track.  Make a calendar or check list to mark each part of the plan.  Having a list to cross out, or a box to check, can help you build on your success.  Consider keeping the list somewhere public or out in the open in your home or office so others can see it as further motivation.

4.      Give yourself consequences.  If you don’t follow through and complete your goals, and plans you have to do something big and unpleasant.  It would be great if we could just go with natural consequences but that’s not always enough.  On the other hand you can have a positive consequence or reward if you succeed.  If you lose the weight you can get new clothes, if you meet you’re business goal you can do something to celebrate.

 

5.      Try to pin down those underlying thoughts or fears that are keeping you from doing what you’ve decided you want to do.  Play the ‘what if’ game.  What happens if I do this?  When you get an answer continue playing ‘what if that happens’ until you get to the base of it.  That’s the problem you need to address.  It may be realistic but is often not.

 

6.      Consider using affirmations and or visualizations.    Picture the goal achieved, or plan fulfilled.  Put emotion into it.  See or speak of it as if it is achieved.  Other affirmations can be found on the net.

7.      Some of us do not naturally follow plans, or recipes, or steps planned out in advance.  It is a challenge to work in a structured environment, so keep some flexibility in your plans build in some unstructured time. 

8.      Most people are now a little bit familiar with S.M.A.R.T. goals.  That is to make sure your goal is

a.       Specific include how, when, what, why, even who else is included.

b.       Measurable how will you know when you get there?

c.       Attainable is it realistic?  Challenging is good unrealistic not so much.

d.      Relevant is it really what you want and how you want to do it.

e.       Timed or Timely How long will it take and is now the time to do it?

9.      Look at two steps forward one step back not as a disappointment but more like a cha cha.  The point is not to let set backs completely derail you.  It’s okay to fall down as long as you get back up.  When kids are learning to walk they fall down… a lot.  Still most of us got back up enough that we learned to walk.  Set backs and obstacles will happen, get back on track when you can.

10.  If…Then your plan.  If I have to take someone to an appointment then I will reschedule this activity for this time and day.  If I eat a pie while I am to be avoiding carbs I have to eat a few meals of this and miss my cheat day.  If it storms when I’m to go for a walk I will go on the treadmill, or go for a walk later.  Plan for obstacles for there will be some.

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10 things to do on a rainy day

10 top things to do on a rainy day:

By Idea go, published on 05 May 2011
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It’s finally Spring.  Here in Manitoba Spring was a little late in coming as it started out with snow storms and several feet of snow with even higher snow drifts.  Now that Spring is here so is the rain and overcast skies reminiscent of Vancouver or Victoria.  Now the rain is great, it gets rid of the snow and dirt and helps along mother natures greenery but a rainy day can sometimes be a dreary day.  Here are some great ways to enjoy a rainy day.

1.  A classic sitting by a window with a cozy blanket and reading.  Maybe with a warm drink maybe not it all depends on you.
2.  It is also a great day for baking and/or trying some spicy foods.  The warm scents and smells can be enriched by the dampness in the air.
3.  Visit with a friend or friends or even family members.  It’s a great time for playing games or just chatting.
4.  Go for a walk in the rain either a rain coat or umbrella will help you stay warm.  If it’s in the summer and warm enough go without the rain coat or umbrella.  The first will tend to be a quieter more introspective walk while the latter is celebratory energizing and fun.
5.  Do a craft.  My favorite new thing is making chalkboard paint and home made chalk boards.  You can use any type of acrylic paint and mix it 8 parts to 1 part Powdered, non-sanded tile grout.  Use a sponge brush to apply to different sizes and shapes of bases including different shaped plaques, use the backing in a picture frame then add the frame (without the glass of course), you can paint directly to a wall or even to clean wine bottles.  Let the paint ‘cure’ for three days, then condition what you’ve painted by covering it with chalk.  You can use a piece of chalk sideways to do the most coverage fastest.  Then wipe the chalk board/wall/bottle with a slightly damp cloth ad your ready to go.
6.  Electronics.  If you wanted a great day to go on the computer, use your game console, or watch television this is it. 
7.  Spring cleaning time.  If you feel like you’re stuck inside, you’re not, but if you feel that way you may notice things are not where and how you would like them.  Sorting furniture or cleaning one room or another is great right now because you’ll still be inside to enjoy it.  Put on some music and get to it.
8. Take care of yourself, do something special like a manicure, or home made facial, or deep conditioner.  You can make this deep conditioner with things from your kitchen.  Just mix 2 parts coconut oil to one part virgin olive oil and a couple of drops of tea tree or another essential oil.  You can even use it on your moustache or beard.  Keep the extra is a sealed container for next time. 
9.  Go to an indoor pool, or gym.
10.  Do errands.  Rain and storms bring energy in the air and a freshness that can’t be beat.  It’s also more fun going in some where if you’re getting out of the rain.

Fear and Living Well

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Fear and Living Well

Fear and living well

Maybe you want to lose weight, or write, or sing, or have more friends. Say someone has wanted to make life changes for a while. It’s like wanting to go swimming. They go to the pool, they get changed, shower before entering the pool, then sit on the side waiting to go in. The longer they wait the colder they get, the deeper the pool looks and the harder it is to go in so eventually they go to the hot tub then leave because they can try again the next day. The desire keeps them going but the fear stops them from going in till eventually they don’t even want to go anymore.

Fear is one of the biggest obstacles to living a healthy life. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are younot to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world” (Nelson Mendala) Its true. We can be afraid of success, of being our healthiest selves. Maybe we feel unworthy, maybe we’re afraid of the commitment or of what else may be expected of us, or maybe we’re afraid we’ll do everything right and still fail or lose it all.

Fear can be seen as False evidence appearing real. Is what you’re afraid of realistic? What could be the absolute worse thing that happens? Really? Could you really forget to swim, lose your swimsuit, be humiliated, and drowned because the lifeguard is to busy laughing at you? Check the odds, check the facts, check out what you could actually live through.

You may notice fear is of the future. We are not afraid of what’s happening, we are afraid of what might happen. We are afraid of what we can imagine happening or relate something from our past that happened and could happen again. Did you get humiliated at the pool before, are you afraid it might happen again even though you’re older, wiser, more prepared? What can happen in the future is not what is happening now. Take one step at a time.

Fear may be left over from the past. Something left a scar on the inside. In that case you may need to feel it and let it go. Do a ritual; write the story and burn it. Find a way to let it go. Louise Hay has suggested an affirmation “I forgive myself, I forgive everyone else, I release the past.” Say it as many times as you need let yourself heal and go on.

Fear can be a good thing. It can tell you your boundaries. Fear says be care full, be aware. It can show you where you need to proceed cautiously. In that case you may need someone to go swimming with you or you might need to start in the shallow end. On the other hand you can try and change this fear to excitement. Going down a waterslide or butterflies in your stomach going back into the water, fun!

Sometimes our fear can present as distractions or sabotages. I need to pick up the dry cleaning before I go, or I just ate a cake so I can’t go swimming now. For these you need planning and awareness. Schedule it in. Plan it out. Be aware when you start going off track. Even if you mess up and fail once or twice or twenty times you can still learn and get back to the plan man. Failure is just learning.

Fear can be a great teacher but a horrible master. Let your fear of never going swimming again, of not fulfilling your lives ambitions and dreams overcome your fear of doing what you know you want to do. What are the consequences of not living a healthy live? Can you let the fear of those consequences push you into action? Go to the pool and get in, keep at it, and one day you’ll notice there’s not so much fear anymore and you’re actually swimming.

*Don’t go in the deep end if you can’t swim. Swimming is a metaphor and I don’t want anyone to drown. Take reasonable precautions and if extreme fear is controlling your life you may want to see a professional for help.