How to make fantasies and day dreams into reality
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| Photo by digitalart. Published on 11 July 2011 |
Many of us have reoccurring day dreams or
fantasies. We really need to look into
them to find out what the touch stone is. Is it just a day dream or is there
something we feel we’re missing or would like more of. The other way fantasies often come in to play
is when we have a dream we do not see as attainable. Some day dreams or fantasies are just for fun
but others actually show us what we truly desire.
One of my on going day dreams used to be that I was
a hero. This was fun and let me know I
needed to get using my abilities to do some good.
Lately I have decided to move to Kelowna,
BC. My immediate response was a fantasy
where someone bought the house we’re in, bought all our stuff, and essentially
paid for us to move to Kelowna. The
problem with this fantasy is that it will most likely not occur on its own, and
it interferes with reality.
Yes, this
would be great. Now how do I make it
happen? What can I do instead to reach
the same goals?
It turns out the key to making fantasies or day
dreams reality is two fold. You may not
even need to do both parts. One find out
what it is you really want. Two look at
what the fantasy is accomplishing and find another way to do it.
One: What is the touch stone? What do you really want; is it freedom,
adventure, security, recognition, or something more concrete a skate board, a
trip, to move some where else? Look at
the dream and find out what it is you really need, so you can change it from a
dream to a goal.
Two: What is
the fantasy accomplishing? My most
recent fantasy made a huge change that could be complicated, easy. It did shine a light on things I need to
consider. The day dream took many steps
and made them into a few simple ones.
When things seem overwhelming or impossible we can
fantasize about them, or we can break them down. Take the day dream and find out what we want
or need, then break it down to find out how to get it. Now chances are no one will suddenly appear
out of thin air and give me what I want.
If, however, I know what I need I can find an exchange that works.
I do have an article on goal setting here. For day dreams however it goes back to the steps. What needs to happen to get what you want? You need to meet someone, develop some skill,
take a first step. Many things that seem
impossible are not. They just take
longer to accomplish. The key is to step
away from a fantasy and look at how to get there realistically. Don’t give up.
Look at the big steps, and then break those down to
smaller and smaller steps till you have a doable starting place. Spend time focusing on your goal or dream and
be open to other opportunities but take action as well. You may need to do research or take a step
back to believe you can get what you’re truly after. It is worth it because those dreams and
fantasies are telling you something.
Break it down to little bits to make it happen, search to find other
ways to make it happen, but seriously
make it happen.
