How to make fantasies and day dreams into reality

How to make fantasies and day dreams into reality

Photo by digitalart. Published on 11 July 2011

Many of us have reoccurring day dreams or fantasies.  We really need to look into them to find out what the touch stone is. Is it just a day dream or is there something we feel we’re missing or would like more of.  The other way fantasies often come in to play is when we have a dream we do not see as attainable.  Some day dreams or fantasies are just for fun but others actually show us what we truly desire.

One of my on going day dreams used to be that I was a hero.  This was fun and let me know I needed to get using my abilities to do some good. 

Lately I have decided to move to Kelowna, BC.  My immediate response was a fantasy where someone bought the house we’re in, bought all our stuff, and essentially paid for us to move to Kelowna.  The problem with this fantasy is that it will most likely not occur on its own, and it interferes with reality.  

Yes, this would be great.  Now how do I make it happen?  What can I do instead to reach the same goals?

It turns out the key to making fantasies or day dreams reality is two fold.  You may not even need to do both parts.  One find out what it is you really want.  Two look at what the fantasy is accomplishing and find another way to do it.

One: What is the touch stone?  What do you really want; is it freedom, adventure, security, recognition, or something more concrete a skate board, a trip, to move some where else?  Look at the dream and find out what it is you really need, so you can change it from a dream to a goal.

Two:  What is the fantasy accomplishing?  My most recent fantasy made a huge change that could be complicated, easy.  It did shine a light on things I need to consider.  The day dream took many steps and made them into a few simple ones. 

When things seem overwhelming or impossible we can fantasize about them, or we can break them down.  Take the day dream and find out what we want or need, then break it down to find out how to get it.  Now chances are no one will suddenly appear out of thin air and give me what I want.  If, however, I know what I need I can find an exchange that works.

I do have an article on goal setting here.   For day dreams however it goes back to the steps.  What needs to happen to get what you want?  You need to meet someone, develop some skill, take a first step.  Many things that seem impossible are not.  They just take longer to accomplish.  The key is to step away from a fantasy and look at how to get there realistically.  Don’t give up.

Look at the big steps, and then break those down to smaller and smaller steps till you have a doable starting place.  Spend time focusing on your goal or dream and be open to other opportunities but take action as well.  You may need to do research or take a step back to believe you can get what you’re truly after.  It is worth it because those dreams and fantasies are telling you something.  Break it down to little bits to make it happen, search to find other ways to make it happen,  but seriously make it happen.