Happiness Series # 3 Spin

Happiness Series #3

It's all in how you look at it!

Source: By imagerymajestic, published on 05 February 2014

Spin

What you look at is where you go but how you look at it is equally important. When you have a great trip you can be sorry it’s done or grateful you had it. The same goes for relationships, jobs, and many other experiences. It’s all in how you spin it.

When it rains, while your not usually experiencing a drought, it does makes the flowers grow. At least it’s not winter (here that is, where we live winter means much cold and snow) if it’s raining. When it rains you can watch from a warm place inside. When it rains it cleans up the streets and produces negative ions which make people feel good.

There are places in the world that do not have words that mean failure. They see that each experience is one to learn from or grow through. Albert Einstein said “I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work.” I am finding many things that do not work, luckily I can keep getting back up again. So can you.

Spin changes “only three people can go” to “at least three people can go”. Again we can focus on the good or the bad it’s all up to us. I had a friend how would be having a great day then something would go wrong and all of a sudden her whole day was bad. Why spin it so the bad negates the good when you could do the opposite.

It is not what you experience that is important it is how you react to it. It is how you perceive what happens that will determine whether it is a blow, or an assistance. Perception will determine how upset you become or how happy you remain. I was walking across a bridge and a young man came up to me and said I was ugly. I found it amusing and strange. Someone I worked with let a similar occurrence damage her self esteem and her whole day. Who was this guy to either of us? No one. Why should what he says matter? He had an issue I didn’t need to take it on.

We can get into a habit of catastrophizing. Taking something and building on it one way or another. I could have said “He thinks I’m ugly, people think I’m ugly, I will be rejected, no one will want me around, my work won’t want me around. I will be fired. I will have no friends and no work. I will end up alone and on the streets.” See when I say it, it sounds ridiculous. Yet many of us take something small and build on it. Get in the habit of really looking at your thoughts. Is it really that bad?

If it really is that bad (and it might be) use it as an opportunity to get out, get away, change it, make it better. Are you still alive? Then you my friend have a chance.

Spin is looking at the same old car and cherishing it. Look at one cool thing about it. Remember what it’s there for. Have you any good memories from it? Take time to appreciate the positives about it. Enjoy driving again. You may not have a great car next to Mr. Whoever but you do have a car unlike Mr. Nocar.

Some people see problems, others see opportunities, a good spin will land you somewhere in the middle. It’s not quite looking on the bright side, It’s more like how else could you see/perceive this. Spin is what allows people to not only take lemons and make lemonade but also sell them so that people going into singing competitions can suck on them.

Spin Recap

1. Be grateful for the good stuff rather then sorry it’s over.

2. Look at all aspects of something, is there any good from it at all?

3. There is no failure only lessons.

4. An event will not determine how you feel. Your perception of that even will determine how you feel

5. Avoid blowing up a negative so it’s overwhelming.

6. Start with the smallest positive and build on that.

7. See opportunities rather then problems.

How can you change that obstacle into a challenge? Can you gently nudge the fear till it becomes excitement? What have you experienced with looking at things in different ways?

Do you wholeheartedly disagree? I would love to hear from you.